Are we aware of ourselves?
Do we know who we are? What we want?
What we are actually afraid of?
What we seem to be afraid of?
Those can be frightening questions; we often avoid them.
But in that case “you are in reality living someone else’s life”.
If we have not chosen who we are, what we are doing, what matters to us – then somebody else has! Maybe we know who; probably we don’t. But since we suffer (or enjoy) the consequences, shouldn’t WE be the ones making the choices? Maybe Socrates overstated it: “The unexamined life is not worth living.” But he has a point.
(quotes from – James Hollis, Living an Examined Life, p115 / Socrates)